The Three Letter Word

They tell you to have safe sex. Societies have succeeded in hoodwinking generations to believe sex in nature is dangerous and you need to protect yourself from it. ~ Somebody

WARNING: This is a HIGHLY opinionated piece.

SEX

This simple three-letter word perks up any ear that catches the sound of it.

And this simple word will soon be the downfall of man's morality and humanity.

Or maybe is it already?

Sex is fundamental for our continuity as a species but it is also the propagator of social issues we have today. (sadly) WHY?

Children are having sex with each other before thinking of what sex is and the heavy consequences it carries.

Society is telling children that they can have sex if they strap up.

Conversations on sex do not include its essence.

Sex is so much more than penetration.

It is more than consent (which is important by the way!!)

It is more than pornography shoved down our throats every other day.

In our hyper-sexualized society, no one gets to the part where a girl loses a chance of completing her education.

We never get to the part where a baby is born.

A life that also needs to be taken care of, respected, and treated with dignity.

Maybe that is why our rivers, dumpsters, and news headlines are filled with children- YES CHILDREN- abandoned and killed by unsafe, unregulated, and habitually practiced abortions...

It's become a sport now for some women and I think it's sad. (I digress)

Sex has been reduced to merely the animal dimension and that is why we are having a problem today.

More teenage to teenage pregnancies are happening and the statistics are HORRIBLE!

Society has single-handedly been able to lie to its youth to destroy their lives and steal their youth from them.

Instead of the youth being silly, childish, enjoying the little pleasures of life, hanging out with friends, 3 AM drives, pajama parties, name it!

We are busy handling problems that are bigger than us.

We are busy living our mid-thirties at the tender age bracket of teenagehood.

Before you sneer and say, "It's just sex." "Who's dumb enough to not take P2?" "Who's dumb enough to not strap up?" "I can solve that with birth control."

The thing is, it is NOT just sex. It's not about taking P2, being on birth control, or using contraceptives. I wonder how much people are willing to give just for 5 seconds of pleasure.

Even harboring such thoughts and ready decisions is a problem.

It's not just P2. It's not just a condom. It is not just birth control.

Do not reduce your self-respect and dignity to 'just'.

How many body changes are you about to endure just for sex? How many moral codes are you willing to break just for sex?

Then we complain about children ending up in systems?

If you know you cannot take care of a child, make wiser decisions.

Miss me with that "I can have safe sex or get an abortion".

Miss me with that shallow talk that we do not get to the part where every single solution to sex is solving the "bigger problem", which is a child and we do not get to talk about the problem with that.

Actions have consequences and human beings have free will.

The surreal thing about free will is that you have the freedom to choose.

I'm not here to tell you not to have sex; sex is a beautiful thing!!

I'm here to tell you, there is that 1% chance.

And that 1%, this seemingly harmless and low 1% will make your life spin if you are not ready to handle the consequences of your choices.

Mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, financially... t

I think sex is a HUGE thing to dismiss just to fit into society's narrative.

Having sex is not cool when you are just having it.

More often than not, people mistake sex for love.

Love comes first then sex. When you disorder things, chaos abounds.

Love is not f*cked into you- for lack of a better word; excuse my language... You do not have to have sex with someone for them to love you.

I really wonder who came up with this-- it is so twisted.

Human beings have something uniquely human; something that animals do not have.

We have a sexual appreciation for one another.

This means, in the grander scheme of things, we can humanize sexual desire.

We can learn to find a sexual identity and realize that our sexual condition pertains to the person and not the body. We learn that you are not having sex with just a body but with another human person.

This...

This is what helps us look at people with dignity rather than as a means to an end.

Understanding your sexual identity and what it means informs how we look at other human beings-- with dignity and respect. Understanding the gravity of this is important.

You have to respect yourself enough to respect another person.

So what's the whole point?

Understand and embody sex humanly.

Do not senselessly have sex just because.

Do not senselessly have sex because that is what your friends are doing and because society is lowkey normalizing this.

Do not senselessly have sex because someone came up with a ridiculous thing of not being a virgin before your 18th birthday, or whatever age it is today... More so, before marriage.

I am a sucker for old traditions because that is where sweet romance is. This is where I am safe as a woman. This is where my child will be safe too.

"Harmony between the sexes is by no means to be limited to the area of sexual life but implies a genuine means of communication and understanding between the two halves of humanity. Hence the harmony of the family, of self, and the whole of society is connected with it." ~R. Yepes.